What Women Want Part II


I suppose its time I actually start prescribing something for the problem between men and women. The main problem is one of communication. What I mean is that there is a lot of talk on both sides. Men and women talk to the point of exhaustion about a plethora of bullshit. We also bullshit each other repeatedly. For some reason most relationships are not predicated on trust, but on the facade of companionship. I'm not recommending that E-Harmony bullshit because I find dating services to be utterly insulting. I think that women, and men too, are just so scared to be alone that they sacrifice standards for the illusion of intimacy. Personally, I just wished the mixed messages would be more clear. Every single girl wants something different from me. Its like I don't know whether to be the nice guy, the smart guy, the tough guy, the athletic guy, the sensitive guy, the funny guy, or the ever-popular asshole. I'm not a very good asshole, but for some reason they do extremely well. Half of the time I forget who I am because I'm playing musical chairs with these girls.
With that being said I'll list the things that women want, in my very narrow and probably compromised perspective

1. Security
What this entails is more than just someone who makes them feel "protected". Women want someone with whom trust is not an issue and who they can feel comfortable with. Financial security also seems to be a big issue with women. I feel that this contradicts a lot of what women want. Supposedly material things aren't an issue for women but the fact that some relationships are predicated on a financial portfolio is pretty scary. I really don't understand what the big obsession is. I don't really value money though. I need to to live but I have no aspirations to become Bill Gates.

2. Intimacy
In my estimation, women are looking for something beyond the 10-15 minutes of pleasure that we supposedly give. I say supposedly because I am not that dellusional to believe that I have pleasured every woman I have been with (I kind of notice the bored look). Intimacy is when two people are allowed to connect on a level that transcends physicality and moves to something tangible without corrupting it with lust. Most couples can't achieve true intimacy because with intimacy comes vulnerability, which is an exceptionally scary concept for men. I understand why women want this but I believe that it is something that is hard to achieve because the human condition is such that it is hard to expose feelings with another human being on a completely honest level without fear of emotional or social repercussions.

3. Compassion
Compassion is basically the ability to sympathize and empathize with someone. Sounds easy, right? Well its hard to do because people are not naturally clairvoyant, therefore, its hard to tell what people are thinking. The other thing about compassion is that most people are so self-absorbed that they cannot possibly imagine another existence outside of their own. Its sad but its true. Not all the time, but more often than most people want to admit.

4. Confidence
This is a big one. At any age, confidence always wins over, which explains my lack of romantic conquests. Ugh! A woman wants someone who is self-assured an projects that. Futility and apathy are not "hot" qualities. The problem is that some people tend to push confidence a little too far and make the rest of the species, particularly the male counterpart, look REALLY bad. Not all men are dumbasses, we have our moments of mental laxity but for the most part we are OK. I might be an asshole, but I'm not a fucking asshole.

Well hopefully this solves some of the riddle. Or maybe sheds some light on the eternal question of what women want. Some people might ask what men want. We are pretty easy. 1. Make us laugh 2. Be real 3. Make us a sandwich 4. Pleasure us orally and 5. Don't talk as much. We are simple. I'll be the first to admit it. The emotional connection would be nice, but a sandwich ends up lasting longer usually. Damn I'm a bitter bastard.